Living A Peaceful Life – Stop Complaining

It’s a relatable reaction, and all people have likely experienced it at some point in their lives: after experiencing something upsetting or bothersome, your first reaction might have been to complain!

Complaining is something everyone does, but when does complaining begin to interrupt your sense of peace? Complaining too much about all aspects of your life has the potential to interrupt your own ability to live a peaceful life.

Why is it so easy to complain?

Complaints may roll easily off the tongue. There are a few key reasons why complaining often feels easy to do when you are facing a tough situation or challenge.

  1. Complaining to another person can feel cathartic.

Sometimes, airing out your grievances about a problem to another person can feel refreshing–especially if the other person also wants to complain about the same thing. This makes complaining feel easier to do.

  1. Complaining can be a way to express emotional reactions.

When you find yourself suddenly faced with a new challenge or setback, your first reaction might be to complain because it serves as an easy way to express and explore your emotions about what is happening. In this sense, complaining gives you a chance to work through your feelings.

  1. Complaining stalls actual work toward handling the issue, and it’s easier than problem-solving.

If you are spending time complaining about the problem, you likely aren’t doing anything to try solving it yet. If you spend time complaining, you stall the actual work that needs to be done to fix it–this is helpful if you aren’t ready to start problem-solving, and it’s much easier!

If you complain too much, what are some strategies you can use to stop?

Complaining can be a common habit that can negatively impact your mood and ability to live a peaceful life. Consider these strategies that can help you stop complaining so much:

  1. Practice gratitude.

Focusing on what you are grateful for can shift your mindset from negative to positive. Try to identify at least one thing you are grateful for each day. Over time, you’ll notice yourself thinking more positively and complaining about life and its problems less.

  1. Use positive language.

Pay attention to the language you use when talking to others or to yourself. Instead of complaining, try to use positive language and focus on solutions instead of problems. The words you choose have powerful influence over you, and leaning into positive words can stop complaints in their tracks.

  1. Take action.

If you are complaining about a situation that you can change or fix, take some action to address the problem. This can help you feel more in control and reduce the urge to complain further.

  1. Practice mindfulness.

Mindfulness involves being present in the current moment without judgment. Practicing mindfulness can help you become more aware of your thoughts and feelings and reduce the urge to complain about what’s happening in your life.

  1. Surround yourself with positivity.

Spend time with people who have a positive attitude and try to avoid people who complain frequently. Positive energy can be contagious, and being around positive people can help you cultivate a more positive mindset. In contrast, hanging out with negative folks who like to complain can tempt you to complain right along with them.

  1. Set boundaries.

If someone is complaining to you, set boundaries and let them know that you are not willing to engage in negative talk–especially whining and complaining. Redirect the conversation to something more positive or suggest focusing on solutions instead of problems.

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